A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. – Mignon McLaughlin I recently took a vacation. A short vacation but one that was not clouded by ailing parents, business issues, children worries or other myriad life stresses. It was stress free from start to finish. What pure joy.
My husband, Noel and I, have been married for 24 years. We have had an abundance of great times and then some not so great times. We are both the youngest children in our family and that combination seems to ensure we will never be up for the perfect marriage award. Still we have a whole lot of fun together, love each other and have always been super great travel partners.
We traveled this past weekend with some very close, great fun and funny friends. We had the pleasure of attending and being a part of a destination wedding in Sonoma at the Westenbeke Ranch where a group of about 30 stayed including the bride and groom. Love was in the air and contagious because of the love between the couple getting married and the closeness of friends that are like family.
We were in a camp like existence spending lots of time outside and on porches in the cool California summertime. People played guitars and we sang. We ate farm to table fresh foods. We stayed up late and laughed so hard it hurt. As Texans, we were thrilled to have escaped the hottest heat index of our summer. As close as we are, we all grew closer. Four of us (two couples) shared a small cabin with four twin beds and one bathroom. Our close quarters added no stress just more laughter and better memories.
The bride and groom are deeply in love for all the right reasons. This is one of those marriages you know will last forever.
They read poems to each other that they had written after their third date. They wrote and read their own vows too. I was guilty of thinking, “Oh, my this could be too much mush.” But, my oh my, was I wrong. These were vows to start a marriage off right. Wonderful, genuine and heartfelt.
Some girlfriends and I were talking after the wedding that the vows made us remember the love we felt on the day we were married. It renewed that “falling in love feeling”. My husband and I have four weddings between now and May 2020 to attend. For two of them my husband will be the officiant. They all involve either very close friends or family. In 24 years of marriage, I have never fallen out of love with my husband. But, this weekend I fell back in just a little deeper. What a gift we were given.
NOEL WILKERSON HOLMES is the Publisher/Managing Editor of the Pleasanton Express. You may E-mail her at firstname.lastname@example.org.